How to Prevent Bad Relationships

No one wants to be part of an unhealthy relationship. The bad news is that it happens - some good relationships go south, some people seem to move from one hurtful relationship to another. 
The good news is there are ways to avoid falling into the usual traps that burden, threaten and ultimately break relationships.

   Be on the guard
Tread with caution. Look back on your previous relationships and what made them crumble. Make a conscious effort to learn from your past mistakes.
Also watch out for red flags – any indication that something is not quite right. Be particularly wary of signs of abuse, violence or manipulation.
Better yet, come up your own relationship deal breakers. Think of the traits or habits that, by your personal standards, are unacceptable in a partner. And when one of the non-negotiables on your list becomes apparent, take it as your cue to bow out of the relationship.

   Be your own person
Do not lose yourself in a relationship. Some couples tend to think only in terms of "we" and forget "I". Relationships should be anchored on the idea of two persons working as a team. That means each individual member must have a voice, get a say in making decisions. Mutual respect needs to exist. So always assert yourself.
Set-ups where one is submissive and the other domineering are bound to fail. Control often translates to abuse. And somebody will end up feeling powerless, dismissed or fearfully dependent.

   Talk it out
Keep the lines of communication open. Converse constantly. Discuss even the smallest of issues, so you can nip them in the bud.
If you can sense that something is eating into the relationship, share your sentiments with your partner. Letting him or her know how you feel could help pinpoint the problem.
For serious troubles, it's best to have your talk when both parties are calm and receptive. Discussing matters when tempers are running high will do more damage than good.
During the conversations, be honest, clear and open. Hear each other out and find a middle ground. You do not have to be on the same side. Agreeing to disagree is a form of compromise in itself.

   Enjoy the company
Couples should be able to have a good time together, may it be fun and wild, or relaxing and comforting. If boredom seems to strike more often than normal or the chemistry is fading, this might be a sign that something is amiss. Find a way to identify and address the situation.

   Work it out
Every relationship hits a snag. But not all survive.
If your find yourselves in a rough patch, do not give up. If the relationship is worth saving, fight for it. Resolve your issues.
But if the bad undoubtedly outweighs the good, then the relationship is unhealthy. There's no need to stick it out any longer.
There are no hard-and-fast rules to avoiding bad relationships. But it always helps to be vigilant. Be on the lookout for any red flags. Make sure there is mutual respect and trust. Communicate regularly, clearly and honestly.
Know when to let go and when course-correcting is an option.

My Heart is Yours

   My heart is yours for the taking for it has always been yours and yours alone. I've laid all that I am on the table for you to see; I hold no secrets from your eyes. Let me be the one that earns your love, let me be the one to end the tears and fears of disappointment; let me show you what real love could be like; for I am nothing without you by my side, you complete the dream of where I want to be; which is, with you by my side.

   What I seek, I see in you; what I want, is to bring you happiness, and to be happy with you; your heart has worn black for too long now, from the pains of broken promises. Let your lips answer the questions that lay on your mind, let them reveille the truth of my affection to thy heart. Embrace my assault and see the truth that is within in my eyes and within my heart .Let the taste of my lips seal and end any of your doubts.

   Let me hold you in my arms, and allow yourself to surrender to my heart; I seek you not as the conquest but as a partner in my life; the half that I've been missing out all of my life. For I see past the beauty that is a shell of you, there is a vision that is more then words could ever define; There is a love in your heart that shines brighter then any light could, there is a passion that seeks to be free, but only to the one who is worthy of your love and affection.

   What can I say or do to prove my worth to you? I stand here, defenseless; I profess my weakness to you, in hopes that you will rescue me too. See; you and I, we're incomplete until we find the other half that, makes are hearts come alive, when we become whole. Smile my sweet for these words are meant for you alone, fate has brought me here across your path, so digest my thoughts, my words and see what I'm saying here.

  All truths, all chemistry, lay in the moment when your lips and mine embraced in that kiss, that will shape and define or lives. Fate drives us to seek each other out. the cynic in you may laugh, but the hopeless romantic in you will act. Truth is found through what your heart feels; follow its lead. where ever it leads you. In the end love is magic it has no rules and it can not be logic with, or reasoned with; we don't choose whom we love, our heart does.

Romantic Getaways

   Romantic getaways are the ideal opportunity to create or renew that spark with your loved one. Whether it’s a mini break, a long holiday, a wedding or a honeymoon there are literally thousands of great ideas to make your time away together really special.

  

  Creating these memorable moments is a very personal choice and the ideal romantic break away will differ from couple to couple. When you are planning your romantic getaway the best place to start is to think about the things that you like to do together. Is it something that you used to do together back when you first met, something you haven’t had the time for recently, or even something entirely new that you’ve both always wanted to try?

   A romantic getaway is a form of adventure. It is a form of adventure that you can share with your lover on a real personal and emotional level - that’s why it’s such a valuable part of being in a loving relationship. As we all know adventures can take many forms. It doesn’t have to be sky diving off a cliff (unless that’s on your list of ‘stuff I ought to do before I die’ of course!). Your ideal romantic break may involve exploring new activities or cultures, or maybe it’s more along the lines of relaxing and luxuriating. Either way there are many different options that you can choose from. Here are some ideas to start you off...

Relaxing and luxuriating
   Everybody likes to be pampered. Why not try some sort of activity together like a health day at a spa. Many spas include package deals that include fabulous relaxation treatments including massage and sauna sessions. Think chilled champagne and steam. This may well be the perfect romantic break option for a stressed, overworked couple.


Outdoor activities
   If you and your partner are more of an "energetic" sort of couple then perhaps an activity related break would be the ideal romantic getaway. First you could think about the type of scenery you love the best. Is it the mountains? The beach? The snow? The water? Why not try a new sport or hobby together. Some good suggestions include sailing, skiing, hiking, snorkelling, horse riding, or mountain biking. There are many great companies that specialise in these special events and often cater for beginners. A good tip is to find a reputable organisation that provides the specialised equipment necessary for the chosen activity in with the package deal.

   It might be a good idea to look into travel insurance if planning any sporting activities.


Romantic Travelling
   Traditionally, popular romantic getaway destinations include places like Italy and Paris. But now there are hundreds of travel companies and independent hotels that specifically offer romantic getaways all over the world. Is there a country that you and your lover have always wanted to visit, and haven’t yet been? Then a trip to the travel agents’ may be long overdue!

   Remember that you don’t always have to travel miles to enjoy seeing new things with your lover. In fact going to visit new places is a vacation within itself. This is especially good to remember if you have limited time or money for your romantic getaway. For example you could visit a new town you’ve never been to before. And keep in mind that sightseeing doesn’t necessarily have to be a strenuous activity. See the attractions together, wander around the town centre, visit a museum, go to the theatre, sample the local food and wine together... the list of possibilities is endless!

Cute Love Quotes

Here we have a collection of cute love quotes and cute love words:

Love makes the wildest spirit tame, and the tamest spirit wild. ~ Alexis Delp

True love stories never have endings. ~ Unknown

Love is that condition in which the happiness of another person is essential to your own. ~ Robert Heinlein

Love is the triumph of imagination over intelligence. ~ H. L. Mencken

Nothing is more beautiful than the love that has weathered the storms of life. The love of the young for the young, that is the beginning of life. But the love of the old for the old, that is the beginning of things longer. ~ Jerome K. Jerome

I have said nothing because there is nothing I can say that would describe how I feel as perfectly as you deserve it ~ Kyle Schmidt

Love is not about what happens in life. Love is about what happens in your heart. ~ Gabor Timis

Love is inseparable from knowledge. ~ Unknown

Love seeks to make happy, rather than to be happy. ~ Unknown

Change everything except your loves. ~ Voltaire

For one human being to love another; that is perhaps the most difficult of our tasks; the ultimate, the last test and proof; the work for which all other work is but preparation. ~ Rainer Maria Rilke

An act of love that fails is just as much a part of the divine life as an act of love that succeeds, for love is measured by fullness, not by reception. ~ Harold

The chains of love are never binding as when the links are made of gold. ~ Tyler

Love is the bridge between two hearts, the bond that unites them. ~ Gabor Timis

Absence diminishes small loves and increases great ones, as the wind blows out the candle and blow up the bonfire. ~ Francois VI Duc de La Rochefoucauld

Love is always in the mood of believing in miracles. ~ Unknown

A very small degree of hope is sufficient to cause the birth of love. ~ Stendahl

What the heart gives away is never gone ... It is kept in the hearts of others. ~ Robin St. John

Love is everything. It is the key to life, and its influences are those that move the world. ~ Ralph Waldo Trine

Neither a lofty degree of intelligence nor imagination nor both together go to the making of genius. Love, love, love, that is the soul of genius. ~ Wolfgang Amadeus Mozart

You know you're in love when you can't fall asleep because reality is finally better than your dreams. ~ Unknown

The minute I heard my first love story, I started looking for you, not knowing how blind that was. Lovers don't finally meet somewhere. They're in each other all along. ~ Maulana Rumi

Love is the seed of all hope. It is the enticement to trust, to risk, to try, to go on. ~ Unknown

I'll give you 12 roses, 11 real, and 1 fake. I'll stop loving you when the last rose dies. ~ Unknown

There is no remedy for love but to love more. ~ David Henry Thoreau

For better or worse, love never dies. ~ Unknown

Love is the immortal flow of energy that nourishes, extends and preserves. Its eternal goal is life. ~ Unknown

Love is the child of illusion and the parent of disillusion. ~ Sandy Wilson

Love must be as much a light, as it is a flame. ~ David Henry Thoreau

True love is a durable fire, in the mind ever burning. Never sick, never old, never dead. From itself never turning. ~ Unknown

Love possesses not nor will it be possessed, for love is sufficient unto love. ~ Kahlil Kibran

Only the words of love kept alive are worthy of not being wasted. ~ Arlo Guthrie

All's fair in love and war. ~ Francis Edwards

If you wish to be loved, then Love! ~ Seneca

To love is to place our happiness in the happiness of another. ~ Unknown

Be loving and the love in your life will increase. ~ Rhonda Britten

Love, while you are able to love. ~ Frances

The way to love anything is to realize that it may be lost. ~ Unknown

Is she loved because she is so beautiful, or is she so beautiful because she is loved? ~ Gabor Timis

A heart that loves is always young. ~ Cute love words

Love is smiling on the inside and out. ~ Jennifer Williams

Love is never really lost you just have to look for it. ~ Unknown

Love life and life will love you back. Love people and they will love you back. ~ Cute love quote

Love is a state of mind which has nothing to do with the mind. ~ Unknown

Love is the child of illusion and the parent of disillusion. ~ Sandy Wilson

Line by line, moment by moment, special times are etched into our memories in the permanent ink of everlasting love in our relationships. ~ Gloria Gaither

Be glad of life because it gives you the chance to love and to work and to play and to look up at the stars. ~ Henry Van Dyke

The pleasure of love is in the loving; and there is more joy in the passion one feels than in that which one inspires. ~ Francois VI Duc de La Rochefoucauld

It is a lovely thing to have a husband and wife developing together and having the feeling of falling in love again. That is what marriage really means: helping one another to reach the full status of being persons, responsible and autonomous beings who do not run away from life. ~ Paul Tourneir

Love conquers all; let us surrender to Love. ~ Virgil

Once you have learned to love, You will have learned to live. ~ Unknown

If you have love, you don't need anything else. If you don't have love, it doesn't matter much what else you have. ~ Steve

Love will find a way. Indifference will find an excuse. ~ Unknown

The madness of love is the greatest of heaven's blessings. ~ Plato

At the close of life the question will be not how much have you got, but how much have you given; nor how much have you won, but how much have you done; not how much have you saved, but how much have you sacrificed; how much have you loved and served, not how much were you honored.

Love can neither be bought or sold, its only price is love. ~ Cute Love Quotes.

Relationship Secrets

ANNIVERSARIES
Always celebrate! Whether it's the 1st or the 50th, each year together is
a triumph.

APPRECIATIONLet each other know how much you appreciate each other.
You may already know but hearing it from each other is always better.

BEST FRIENDS
Be best friends preferably before being boyfriend-girlfriend.
Take time to know each other so the relationship will be a deep one.
Tell each other about your crushes, dreams and problems.
Make sure he/she is your best friend before getting engaged.
The strong bond of friendship will help you both survive tough times.

BONDMake it a point to spend time together often but leave room for each other. Also spend time alone w/ each other, so that at the end of the day you could both share your experiences. This way, you stay interesting with your partner.

CHANGING EACH OTHERDon't marry an as...le, j.... or a bi.... (an unsuitable person) You'll never change each other.

COMPLIMENTSAlways compliment each other.
This will prevent feelings of resentment & thinking that one is being taken for granted.

DATEKeep doings things that you both enjoy, do them together.
Make time & continue to date to keep the romance - look good, smell good to maintain physical attraction

DIFFERENCESCelebrate differences. Never force your ideologies down each other's throat. Give up trying to turn your partner into you. Accept differences, appreciate them.

FIGHTSFight w/the aim to resolve the issue. Don't outdo each other.
The longer you extend the fight. The more chances that you'll say something hurtful that you don't really mean. As mad as you were w/ your partner, he/she is still the person who laughs at your jokes & thinks you're hot.
Hear each other out, don't dig up old issues. Choose your battles.
Make sure the fight will be worth it & that something will change in the relationship as a result of the fight.

FLAWSKnow that the perfect person does not exist.
Know that just as there are things that you love about him/her, there will be things that will make you go crazy. We are only human with our own flaws.

FUNHave fun together! This means keeping the fun & spontaneity that was there in the early days.
Allow yourselves to get silly - shower together, pee w/the door open etc. Being able to make each other laugh & see the lighter, crazier, absurd  side is the best way to get through all the differences in personalities, adjustments in lifestyle & opposing viewpoints.

GOALSMake sure you have similar goals.
It would be difficult to keep your bond intact if your views are complete opposite.

GRUDGESQuit tabulating grudges. Let it off. Discuss it, then trash it, don't recycle it.

KEEPING IT HOTKeep it hot by traveling to diff. places together.
A new setting will do wonders. Always have skin contact - be it holding hands, a massage or just plain leg rubbing.

HONESTYDon't lie or hide things. The problem will only get bigger.

KNOW EACH OTHERLearn each other's interest. It really keeps the conversation flowing!

HUGA hug can be far better more intimate than a kiss.

IDENTITY
Don't lose your personality - that's why he/she fell in love w/you.
Have separate interest & activities to keep your individual, & to be able to contribute more to the relationship.

INDEPENDENCEHaving your own income means you're the boss in your life.

IN-LAWSMake rooms for the in-laws.

INTENTIONSWish each other well. Don't wish each other worst

ISSUESSpeak up about the awkward stuff now,like money & sex. The earlier, the better.

LISTENListen, listen, listen. Hear each other out especially during arguments.

LOOK GOODMind your appearance! Stay fit & healthy for each other.

LOVEIt all boils down to your love, chemistry & respect for each other.

MEMORIESRemind each other of the old days. Do something that you used to do for each other before.
It may even be corny but it made you two together.
Experience new things together- from dining into a new restaurant to experiencing street food together to exploring to new places. It's the little surprises that make great memories.

MIND READINGNo matter how long you've been together, do not think that you can read each other's mind.

NEEDSBe good to yourself,then be good to your partner.
That's what love is all about. Think about your partner. Will it make him/her happy?
Will she/he enjoy it? Consider each other's feelings.
Be very attentive & sensitive to each other's needs, physically & emotionally, that way your partner learns to do the same for you.
Never take your partner for granted.

PRIORITIESIf one says it's important, then it is! Prioritize each other among other things!

SPACE Give each other space. Have dates with your girlfriends, have your boy's night out.
If you can't trust each other with this, then don't get married.

SORRYSay sorry when you're wrong.

SURPRISESNo matter how long you've known each other, be open to surprises, both good or bad.

TEAMWORKThink for two & always work as a team.
Consult each other before making a decision because everything will always affect both of you.
Strengthen couple power.
In many ways, we have to decide based on what is best for the relationship in favor of our individual selves.

SUPPORTSupport each other's dream. Be willing to follow your passions,
support your partner in his/her decisions & create new ones together.
Two heads are better than one.

TALKTell each other's stories. Life goes by so fast & its easy to see how easily couple can grow apart.

A - Z Romantic Gift Ideas

Have you ever run out of gift ideas? Here's a list of romantic gift ideas from A to Z:

• A - Albums, antiques, aphrodisiacs, artwork, azaleas
• B - Balloons, books, bubble bath
• C - Candles, cards, CDs, chocolate, cookies, concerts, cruises
• D - Diamonds, dining out, donuts
• E - Earrings, engagement rings, erotica, escape weekends
• F - Films, flowers, furs
• G - Garter belts, gemstones, gold, gourmet recipes and gadgets, guitars
• H - Hats, Hawaiian vacations, heart-shaped things, honeymoons
• I - Ice cream, incense, Italian vacations
• J - Jazz music, Jamaican vacations, jewelry
• K - Kiss coupons, kites
• L - Licorice, lingerie, limousine rides, love poetry, love songs
• M - Magazine subscriptions, movie tickets, music
• N - Nature escapes, necklaces, nightgowns, novels
• O - Opera, opals, ornaments
• P - Perfume, picnic baskets, popcorn
• Q - Quiet afternoons, quilts
• R - Rings, roses, robes
• S - Satin sheets, silk shirts and shorts, spas
• T - Tickets, tents, time together, tools, t-shirts
• U - Umbrellas, unconditional love
• V - Vacations, vases
• W - Watches, waterfall trips, weekend getaways
• X - eXtravagant gifts and gestures
• Y - Yachts, Yukon vacations
• Z - Zoo, Zorro
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Be creative and don't forget to surprise your partner with gifts given for no other reason than a gesture of love!